Earlier this week I talked about what reframing is and how you can do it. Using this tool we can remove a lot of junk from our bodies, our minds, and our overall energy. If we take the time to see the lesson in the “negative” things that happen in life, then we can allow ourselves to have a happier life in the long run. We don’t get stuck going over and over the same conversations in our head. We don’t get lost in the replay of not saying or doing the right thing. We keep ourselves from harboring anger and resentment, that in turn only hurts us.
The other great thing about learning how to reframe a situation is that it allows us to see the world more as a place of opportunity and freedom, rather than a place of problems and disappointment. We view the world and the people in it as helping us rather than out to get us.
The more we are able to see opportunity, the more the world opens up to us.
If we only see the world as being full of obstacles and problems, then it limits our view as to what is actually possible for us. Imagine if you were walking and you came upon a body of water. As you stand at the edge you see no possible way to cross the water and get to the other side. But then, when you start looking around, you see a bridge that crosses the water. You look in the other direction and there are 2 more bridges that you could use.
This is how life works. If you try to hold onto your tunnel vision you may never see anything outside of what you think is possible. When you start to look around, look at other ways of doing things, then you start to see that the possibilities are truly endless.
When you are face with an obstacle in life, what do you do? How do you handle it? Do you stop in your tracks and refuse to move forward? Do you see it as a sign that you’re on the wrong path and divert? This can be true at times, if obstacle after obstacle keeps appearing, however most times it is the universe giving us the chance to change our way of thinking.
To change how you think about challenges, obstacles, and problems, use the same technique that you would use to reframe a situation, event, or conversation.
Take a step back and look at the perceived challenge as if you were a third party, or as if you were watching someone on a movie. Now move the camera around and see what other angles you can find.
Ask yourself the following questions: Why do I think that this is a problem? If I could see past this obstacle what would I find? How can I view this challenge as an opportunity to learn, grow, and improve myself? What skills might I need to move past this?
After answering these questions, and beginning to reframe things in your mind, say:
“I choose to see this as an opportunity rather than an obstacle. I choose to believe that the world is helping me. I choose to see the endless possibilities that are available to me on a daily basis.”
Once you do a little self-inquiry, you will start to see other ways to deal with the issue at hand, and you will begin to feel more like you can conquer this and any challenge that arises. The more you do this, the more confident you become in yourself and your abilities. The more confident you become, the more likely you are to search out and do the things that truly matter most to you. This is because you go from feeling like you’re fenced into one place, to being able to stand up and see that you can step over that fence and move out into the world.
It’s like the story of the man who thought he was drowning. He was flailing his arms and freaking out because he thought he was in water over his head. When all seemed completely lost he heard a voice say, “Stand Up”. It turns out, he was only in water up to his waist, but he wasn’t able to see it because he only saw his perceived challenge.
So I’m saying to you now, Stand Up. Take another look at those obstacles that you see in front of you. Watch the movie, question yourself, and find the bridge that crosses those waters. On the other side lies the life that you’ve always wanted.